Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing, also known as EMDR, is a therapy treatment originally designed to reduce stress related to PTSD and other traumas.  This treatment modality has gained a lot of popularity since its founding in the late 1980s and has been utilized as a gold standard treatment for several mental health concerns over the past 25 year.  

So what exactly is EMDR?
EMDR harnesses the brain’s natural tendency to move toward mental health by encouraging the system to consider past disturbing events in a detached way.  The brain does this by following clinician-led bilateral (two ways, side to side, and often left to right) movements or sounds with the goal of replacing maladaptive or negative thoughts with more adaptive or positive thoughts.  The most popular bilateral method uses eye movements which mimics REM sleep (the good, deep, reparative sleep).
So you’re saying it’s hypnosis?

No, it’s not hypnosis!  The client is fully awake, fully aware, and fully able to control the processing experience.  The processing time is a lot like watching a movie of past life events going by—you might experience them by feeling some of the past emotions and body sensations but you do not have to fully re-experience the event.  

How long does EMDR take?

Much like other methods of counseling there is no one answer that fits for everyone.  EMDR is an eight-phase treatment and depends on the presenting concerns of the client as to how quickly they will move through each phase.  Some research does suggest that one processing session is equivalent to 6 talk therapy sessions.

EMDR has 8 phases?

You read that right.  EMDR has 8 phases.  Here’s a brief description of the phase:

Phase 1 is a history taking phase.  These sessions focus on naming memories and events the client wants to processes.  The clinician is evaluating the client’s readiness to begin processing and helps tailor the EMDR treatment to the client.  This is also the best time for clients to share any nervousness they have about processing.

Phase 2 focuses on preparing the client for success by teaching the client specific, detailed self-soothing and coping techniques to handle different levels of emotional stress.

Phases 3-6 are the processing phases and take the most time.  These are the sessions where bilateral movements are utilized and memories are processed.  

Phase 7 is the closing phase where the processing is evaluated.  

Phase 8 closes the EMDR treatment and addressed progress and future direction.  

Who can benefit from EMDR?

EMDR can be utilized with a variety of clients of all ages (children, teens, and adults) wishing to work through a variety of concerns.  EMDR has had the most success with Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).  Clients with other traumatic and stressful situations, anxiety, and panic disorders have also seen great benefits from EMDR.  If someone is experiencing heightened, distressing, and long-term emotional responses around specific events and experiences they might benefit from EMDR.
How do I get started?

Bethel Haven has an EMDR trained clinician that can help identify if this modality could be helpful for you.  You can call the office to set up an appointment. 

A few years back - I found myself stuck in a mental rut.  Years of deep rooted family issues came to a peak -  job insecurities and financial roller coasters, striving for perfection in a life of constant failures as a parent - balancing marriage, work, and community - internal pressures I placed on myself. 

As a result, my mind was in a constant state of noise - without peace or passion - not living only surviving.  I knew I was not walking in the freedom God so desires for us as His children.  Physically I was healthy - strong - active - however, my mental health was dwindling.   I kept asking myself ( and my community)- why can’t I get over it? Where is this coming from? 

I truly gave a good effort with all of MY power - which only caused more frustration.  I needed more - I deserved more - my family deserved more - I wanted LIFE- Joy - healing - hope.

I made the call. I reached out. At first, I felt as if counseling couldn’t possibly help me - it was not for me - it was a label I did not want.  However, I wanted to move forward, and this step was my next.  

After only one hour - one session- I was more aware than ever of all that I was constantly processing and how it was affecting my spiritual and mental outlook.  I was stuck. God had brought me to a place where in order to move forward I had to go back to allow healing and to process.  

Years of suppressed hurt from a divorced family and unhealthy boundaries within family had brought me to a point of exhaustion, failure, anxiety - I had to learn - to retrain - to work new brain muscles to fight these tendencies.  Through counseling I was led through healing prayers - God’s truths and love were spoken over me in new, life-changing ways. His constant presence revealed. Healing began.  I could see freedom - Hope was renewed.

Your story may not be my story.  Your needs not the same as my needs. But without a doubt - I know your mental health is as important to you as my mental health is to me.  Our thoughts affect our lives - our families’ lives. God desires for us is to live in His freedom - in His constant peace and love.   

Counseling is a journey from which I have been able to see constant growth in myself. I am encouraged along the path God has laid out for me to live my best life.  I am proud to say I see a counselor. I urge my friends to do the same. I have placed my middle school son in counseling before his first crisis. Why? 

Because our mental health is crucial. It gives us life over destruction - joy over hopelessness  - love over fear. 

Thank you to Ivey Broxton for sharing your story with us.

Finals week is here! Do you feel stressed? Overwhelmed? Like you don’t have enough time to do all the things you need to do? 

Did you know that high amounts of prolonged stress (hello, finals week!) can cause headaches, anxiety, restlessness, lack of motivation or focus, fatigue, sleep problems, feeling overwhelmed, social withdrawal and irritability? 

It feels impossible to study for finals without experiencing high levels of stress. But there are ways that you can decrease your stress that will ultimately help you be more productive as you study. Here are eleven things you can do while studying to help decrease stress symptoms so that you can be healthier and more balanced as you study: 

1. Surround yourself with positive people who encourage you. 
2. Take care of your physical needs - eat regular meals, get enough sleep, stay hydrated! 
3. Take a minute to laugh - watch a funny video or spend time with a friend.
4. Take a long shower or bath to relax. 
5. Get a change of scenery! Take a walk or study somewhere new. 
6. Stand up and stretch - pay attention to places in your body that you’re feeling tension.
7. Find an encouraging or inspiring quote to motivate you. 
8. Take 10 deep breaths when you start to feel overwhelmed.
9. Set a timer and take frequent breaks. 
10. Turn off your phone and/or stay off of social media.
11. Come to college de-stress night on May 2nd. 

We are offering an opportunity for college students to take a study break for an hour or two at our college de-stress night. On May 2nd from 6-8 we will be having yoga, snacks and mental health tips to help you de-stress and be even more energized to study for finals. Come join us at Athens Church and take some time to recharge! 

It is at the point in the school year where high school seniors are experiencing the peak of senioritis and all they can think about is what is next. Many high school seniors are looking ahead with great anticipation of starting their college experience. 

For many students, college is the “best four years of your life.” The reality is that the college transition can be a difficult one for many students. One of the best ways to prepare for this transition is to set realistic expectations for what this will be like. 

As a first year college student, you will have new responsibilities.
Some of these responsibilities include maintaining a schedule, getting yourself to class, meal preparation and/or planning, managing your finances or a budget and creating new community. 

Remember: Your responsibility will increase, but God's responsibility will stay the same. This means that you will need Him in new ways, and He will meet you in new ways.

2. As a first year college student, you will have more choices. 
These choices will include your classes, your major, your career, who you hang out with, and how you spend your time.

Remember: Watch out for the comparison trap or sacrificing your values in order to "fit in". For example: Your friends may have their "life planned out" but this does not matter. Embrace the path God has for you.

3. As a first year college student, you will experience rejection and failure (in new ways).
You may experience failure in the classroom. You may experience failure in attempts to make friends and meet new people. You may experiencing failure in managing new responsibilities. 

Remember: This happens to everyone. How you learn from failure and respond matters most. These moments are an opportunity to turn to God and see Him work in your life.

4. As a first year college student, you will experience a transition. 
Regardless of how prepared you are, everyone must transition to college life. There is no way that you can anticipate all of the changes to come. What you can do is prepare for these transitions by managing expectations and setting up a support system. 

Remember: Be prepared to experience some difficulty in your transition. It will most likely be challenging and that is okay. Who can support you?

College looks different for everyone. What is challenging for some seems easy for others. Some college freshman feel at home immediately while others need time to adapt. If you are a college freshman experiencing some of these challenges or a high school senior who would like to prepare for the transition, our counselors at Bethel Haven can help. Call our office at 706.310.9046 to make an appointment with a counselor. 

"Wholehearted living is about engaging in our lives from a place of worthiness. It means cultivating the courage, compassion, and connection to wake up in the morning and think, No matter what gets done and how much is left undone, I am enough."  - Brene Brown

One of the most common things my clients hear me say: you are not a machine. You need rest. And sleeping during the night doesn't count as true rest. You can't just plug yourself in to charge at the end of the day like an iPhone or a computer. We truly find rest when we are able to sit quietly in the satisfaction who we are - regardless of what we accomplish.  

It is tempting to live life as if our daily "output" determines our worthiness. To live as if finishing a to-do list is the most meaningful thing about us. 

What if you woke up every morning and said to yourself: "No matter what gets done and how much is left undone, I am enough?"

If we ascribe to Christianity and to being Christ-followers, we know that God did not design us to be little machines that output: "1 laundry, 4 errands, 3 bills paid." How many laundry and errands and paid bills does it take before we can accept our worthiness? 

We must accept that God does not see us the same way we see ourselves. At times, we only see all of the things we have failed to accomplish. We see all the ways we don't measure up. God sees as as worthy, as new creations in him (2 Corinthians 5:17). He offers us new mercies every morning (Lamentations 3:22-23). 

Cultivate your courage, your compassion and your connection so that you can wake up every morning satisfied with the person you already are and have been created to be. True growth will come - not from the things that you accomplish but instead from the ways that you engage with worthiness from the person you already are. 

Transitions within the family can be tough. Significant life changes can bring conflict, confusion, and uncertainty to a family system, uprooting consistency and stability. Family counseling is a great resource to process difficult circumstances as a unit. Seeking family therapy has proven itself to be helpful during difficult transitions including divorce, a move, grief and loss, adding new family members (birth of a sibling, grandparent moving in, etc.), and a new diagnosis for an individual. Fostering healthy family relationships during difficult transitions can help family members adjust to their new norm as a system. Changes in behaviors can often be seen most prominently within the context of the family. Family therapy can be helpful in navigating these life changes.

Some of the benefits of family counseling are as follows:

• Improve Communication: Communication is key in healthy relationships, and can be difficult to attain. A family therapist can help individuals learn to communicate effectively with one another by creating a space where open, honest conversations can happen.
  
• Conflict Resolution: Learning to handle conflict in a productive manner can improve relationships within the family. Therapists can help families to enhance their problem solving skills by providing new techniques a family system can use to deal with conflict.
  
• Family Resiliency: Improving coping skills can help families become more resilient and stable in the face of inevitable challenges that will rise. Family therapists often teach helpful coping skills that the family can use to strengthen the system as a whole.
  
• Create Support: Family therapy can help members learn how to best support one another based on individualized needs. Family bonds are often strengthened through family therapy sessions.
  
• Identify Family Patterns: Within a family system, an individual’s behavior can affect the entire system. Family members can identify unproductive family patterns or dynamics, and make adjustments with the help of the therapist.

In addition to individual therapy, we offer family therapy at Bethel Haven. We would love to help you and your family build healthy relationship dynamics with one another through family therapy. 

The beginning of the new year brings with it a clean slate and hope for a fresh start. It is often a time of goal-setting, resolutions, and changes. Yet, if you are anything like me, those resolutions sometimes to fall to the wayside around this time of year. Because of this tendency of mine, I have learned to set goals in a practical way that sets me up for success rather than failure. Here are a few tips to help you do the same!

• Reflect: Reflect on your year. What were the moments you want to remember forever? In what areas did you grow the most? Which parts of the year make you proud? How did you help yourself? How did you help others? What do you want to leave behind in the coming year? What do you want to move toward? Taking time to reflect helps to put into perspective the growth and change in ourselves that will shape the years to come.
• Be Realistic and Clear: A therapist once told me that in relationships, we must be clear and realistic about what we expect from others. I have found this to be true for the expectations I have for myself, too. Learning to be realistic is a game changer when setting goals for the future. Think practically about your life, and where there is room for change. Do you need to give something up to make room for the changes you want in your life? How will the new goal fit into your life practically? How can you pace yourself to avoid feeling overwhelmed by the alterations you are making in your life? Additionally, make sure your goals are clear and defined. Less defined goals are less likely to come to fruition. Breaking down a goal into smaller, defined objectives can make attaining our goal feel more attainable.
• Rally Support: Don’t be afraid to ask for help! We all need each other. Find a few friends you can lean on for support for those days when motivation feels lacking, and giving up feels easiest.
• Let yourself off the hook: Be patient with yourself. Inevitably, there will be setbacks, and our paths can often feel tangential and windy. Yet, I have found that the turns and bumps in the road often lead to greater self-discovery. Allow the setbacks to teach you about yourself. Give yourself permission to alter your goals as the journey toward them unfolds.

 
These practical goal-setting tips can be used at any point during the year- not just the beginning! Anytime is a good time to begin moving forward toward healthy lifestyle shifts.