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Improving Your Relationship with Your Child Through Play

10/20/2017

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Children love to play and they don’t need much guidance from us on how to use their imagination, how to play with toys and how to run around outside. Children will engage with each other on the playground with ease and have an intuition that helps them identify what a toy looks like.

It can be a huge deal for a parent to engage in intentional play with your child. Intentional may sound the opposite of what play is supposed to be. As adults we can use intentionality in play to help children develop social skills, learn self control and continue to attach themselves to their parents. 

Intentional play is a little different than simply playing with your child. Intentional play is playing with your child one-on-one. This enables the child to have focused attention from a caregiver through play. Here are some questions to ask yourselves to get started: 

1. How do I play with my child now? 
Take a minute to evaluate how you typically play with your child. Are you engaged in play or distracted? Are you directive in play and worried about your child following the rules? Or are you able to let loose and have fun? It is important to know your own style of play with your child so you can understand how you and your child may interact in play. 
 
2. Am I engaged? 
Intentionally playing with your child won’t be useful or fun if you aren’t able to fully engage with them. Put away your phone, your distractions of the day, and focus on your child. This focus will make them feel connected to you. It will also help you to notice opportunities to help your child learn new skills through play. 

3. What is my goal of intentional play? 
It sounds counterintuitive to have a goal for play with your child. Most of the time the goal is probably simple: have fun engaging with your child. Sometimes you might have another goal that you want to focus on. Have you noticed that your child gets frustrated when they lose? Does your child have difficulty with self control? Play can help with all of those things! 

4. How can I help my child during play? 
Children learn in tactile ways. This is why play is so important for children developmentally. As a parent the most important thing you can do with your child during play is pay attention to them, engage with them and care for them. 

5. What do I do next? 
Take a minute to evaluate after you play with your child. You know your child better than anyone. Does your child’s play seem different than usual? Does it feel like they are able to enjoy themselves around you? Does it feel like they are exhibiting a certain behavior that you may need to pay attention to?

Children communicate so much through their play. If you take the time and pay attention, you might be surprised at what you learn about your child during play time! If you want some practical ways that you can play with your child in an intentional way, check out next week’s post on creative play that encourages self-expression! 
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Five Things You Can Do During A Life Crisis

10/6/2017

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We have all experienced being in crisis. Something unexpected happens that sets our world into disarray and we are forced to enter “crisis mode.” Rarely do we think to prepare for a life crisis - typically crisis appears out of nowhere: an illness, an accident, a family emergency, a loss. 

What can you do when you are in the middle of a crisis? Here are some places to start: 
  1. Start with your physical needs: food, water, rest, exercise. It can be easy to ignore your physical needs when you feel overwhelmed. Meeting your physical needs can energize you and give you more focus to deal with the crisis at hand. 
  2. Ask for help: who can you turn to for help? It may be friends, family, a pastor, a mentor or a counselor. You may not want to ask for help but this is the time you need it the most. 
  3. Evaluate your situation: is your crisis so great that you need outside help? Are you experiencing mental or emotional distress that requires a professional to evaluate and treat you? If you feel unable to evaluate your situation, reach out and ask someone who can. 
  4. Eliminate the unimportant: if you are in crisis, your mental and emotional energy is likely drained. This is not the time to make sure that your ceiling fans or dusted or to worry about whether you should do the extra volunteer shift at school. Eliminate what can be eliminated so that you can focus on what is at hand 
  5. Discard guilt: allow yourself to do be imperfect. Discard guilty feelings about whether or not you are doing all of the things that you typically do when you are not in crisis. Simply survive the best way that you can and leave the rest for another day 

If you are experiencing a crisis and feel as if you can not do it on your own, Bethel Haven counselors are here to help. Call us at 706.310.9046 to schedule an appointment. 

If you are struggling with suicidal thoughts, you are not alone. Confidential help is available 24 hours a day at no cost. Call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255. 
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