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The inside joke of counselors is that summer is a total wild card. During the summer many of our clients are out of school. Others are taking vacations. Some feel as if summer is a good time to ‘take a break’ from counseling. The result is that counselors often find ourselves with last minute cancellations and a little extra flexibility in our calendars. It seems as if many people feel like summer is an inconvenient time for them to be in therapy.
The secret is that summer is actually the perfect time to start in therapy.
For school aged kids: kids don’t have the distraction of schoolwork and and the mental effort of going to class every day. School aged kids have a lot more margin in their summer to be engaged in therapy. They have more emotional energy to do their counseling “homework.” It is easier to make an appointment for them when they don’t have school and you aren’t competing with other parents for the afternoon time slots.
For college students: even if you are taking summer classes, you know that summer just feels different. The sun is out more. Athens is a little quieter. And there is a wonderful opportunity to engage in counseling and work on issues that are typically present in the school year. You have more emotional and mental energy to devote to your own personal growth and self-care. You have an opportunity to make mental health a priority.
The best time to start counseling is before a problem starts. The second best time to start counseling is now. For school age kids and college students, August rolls around with a host of issues related to being in school. Anxiety about performance, feeling stressed and over-scheduled, and interpersonal issues all ramp up around school time. You have the opportunity during the summer to get started on working through those issues! It is also a great time to process the previous school year and feel prepared to start again in August.
If you are interested in making an appointment this summer with one of our counselors, please call Bethel Haven at (706) 310-9067.
Core beliefs are something that often come up during the course of therapy. They come up because we live in a world that influences our core beliefs to often be deeply flawed. This often leads to emotional distress.
Core belief are our deeply held beliefs about ourselves that influence the way we interact with others and interpret events. Our core beliefs are, as the name implies, at the very core of how we see ourselves and what we believe ourselves to be.
These beliefs are held deeply and yet without introspection we do not know what they are. Our core beliefs are what are often activated in times of stress or relational discord. If you’ve ever said or thought something and wondered “where did that come from?” you’ve likely experienced an activation of a core belief.
Your core beliefs can be negative: “I’m not good enough” “I’m unlovable” “I’m not capable”
Your core beliefs can be positive: “I am capable” “I am lovable” “I am enough”
These core beliefs are seen in the way we think about situations: “I won’t make the team because I am not good enough for them.” “I don’t make friends because people don’t like me.” “I can never do anything right.” “I always say the wrong thing.”
It is important to know our core beliefs because of how strongly they influence our mood, actions, and thoughts about ourselves. If you approach situations with the belief that “I’m unlovable” you are likely to feel depressed and/or anxious.
A great way to determine your core beliefs might be to talk to a trusted friend or a counselor. A counselor can help you explore where in your history your core beliefs stem from and can help you learn how to change your core beliefs.
If you are interested in making an appointment with one of our counselors at Bethel Haven and learning more about your core beliefs, please call us at 706.310.9046 to schedule an appointment.
Written by our counselors to help promote your help, hope, healing